Sex and Fibroids

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Fibroids are benign pain in the ass or should I say uterus. It’s a silent pain that many women carry with them but isn’t always discussed due to shame and embarrassment. How many women actually tell their gyne doctor that sex has become painful? We don’t. We focus on the increased bleeding, the size of it, pain as a whole but how about the pain when you are trying to get your groove on?!

There are a couple types of fibroids. Some are within the uterine wall and some can grow on the outside of the uterus. These types called predunculated fibroids. These can cause intermittent pain. Pain from sex comes from the manipulation of the fibroid through intense motion and tapping. You may feel pressure in your pelvis, pain, or cramping that may be present for hours after sex. Fibroids are 2 to 3 times more prevalent amongst black women compared to white women and are 4 times more likely to have a hysterectomy due to pain and bleeding.

So what can you do to make a more pleasurable session?

1. Increase the length of time on your foreplay session. You want to be in a very good space from the beginning. You want to be In a relaxed state of mind and ready to receive .
2. Positioning is everything! I’m sorry there may be some sexual positions that irritate your fibroids more than others. If you have pain in the doggy style position, make adjustments such as laying on your belly. You may have to go slower, longer strokes oppose to quick short strokes. If it’s too much then try lying on your side. Being on top is good because you can control the pace and depth (in bed, in the chair ect.) Finger penetration is ok as long as you direct yourself partner in what feels good.
3. De-Amouring your vaginal canal and your cervix can help reduce tension . A great wand for this practice is the Medusa Wand. It has a bulbous end for cervical massage and a smaller end for vaginal massage. The curve conforms to your internal vaginal curve. It’s beautiful, sleek and smooth.
4. You may not have pain during sex but you may experience uterine cramping the day after. Pay attention to your body and give it self-care and self-love. Make some tea, give yourself womb massages, reflect on your experience, and take care of you.
5. Don’t be ashamed to share your truth. Our bodies will go through changes. As changes occur, you should be able to share them with your partner. But if you don’t feel ready, then that’s your right. But don’t stop the intimacy. You just make adjustments❣️

If your symptoms become too much then you should talk to your practitioner about your fibroids because they will continue to grow.