Fantasy Play

Its time to unwind and get inside your mind to where your thoughts and fantasies are created.

Did you know that having sexual fantasies is healthy for your sex life? Dreaming or fantasizing is not an indicator that there is something wrong with your relationship. In fact it’s a healthy sign of sexuality. Fantasies are actually one of my favorite things to talk about. It’s fun, freaky, kinky, mind freeing and liberating. You can have the most explicit thoughts and never act on them, but you can have fun with them. For too long people have been made to feel like there is something wrong for having exotic, kinky dreams. 

Sharing your private fantasies is extremely intimate and takes bonding with your partner to another level. Now before you go running telling your innermost sexual thoughts, know your audience. Start with something small. Their mind may not be as freaky as yours lol. Men and women fantasies differ in acts but there is commonality in subjects. For example the BDSM fantasy. Women tend to like to submit and want to be taken control of where as men want to do the controlling. The threesome fantasy is common and can enhance bedroom sex. (Not the act just fantasy, that’s a different topic:) The blow job fantasy from multiple suitors, girl on girl fantasies, sex in public while everyone watch and the list goes on. 

How do you incorporate these thoughts in the bedroom? By being vulnerable and sharing them. Communication is key. How does it enhance sex? By creating a sexual fantasy about the fantasy during a sexual moment. Ex. “Tell me about your dream” “I dreamt that i was riding you and a woman walked in and started watching us” You are telling your fantasy while you riding your partner turning you on and freeing your mind while your partner is turned on listening and enjoying that you are being open and sexual. 

Oh and guess what? When you are finished, you don’t have to deal with guilt or any weird feelings because it was all fantasy play. Mission accomplished and no-one got hurt! How fun and exciting is that! Talk about sharing and the “what if’s” and “how would you feel if I” and test it out! Enhance your sexual relationship with a little bit of kink.